Everyday with Ed

I get a lot of inspiration for posts from listening to my pod casts. This morning I was listening to Dr. Phil interview Mitch Albom about various books he has written, Tuesdays with Morrie is one of them. Mitch himself suffered a loss and he discusses that in the podcast. He speaks about how utterly helpless he felt holding his daughter as she took her last breath. That really hit home this morning.

I lost my Ed to pancreatic cancer on my birthday, which is coming up. The next few weeks have always been very hard and now I think I understand why it will always be very hard. Mitch hit the nail right on the head. Everything in our brains tell us that there was not a thing we could do to change the inevitable, but we have this horrible feeling that can not be shaken that we did not do enough. There had to something else that we could have done. Re running the last few months over and over in our heads on what we could have done better.

Four years later, I know now that Ed’s passing is why I am riding again. Do not wait for the opportune time to do what you love. Do it now!!! Enjoy it now. Take those trips you have dreamed about. No more procrastinating. Someone else is not going to schedule it for you.

What is in it for you?

What is your payoff? Why have you made the goals you have? So, I am going to be upfront and honest. I am taking this straight from Living by Design by Dr. Phil. What does success in your life look like for you? I’m going to keep this focused first on my riding success. Why am I doing all this? What is my payoff? The choices are as follows:

Monetary – Psychological – Spiritual – Physical – Achievement – Social

I am getting into the best shape of my life so that I can achieve my equestrian goals. It has nothing to do with money or spirituality. It will aid in my psychological make up. The journey and then finally feeling like I have attained this goal will be probably the biggest boost to my psychological self. Social? Hmmm? Will achieving this goal change my social behavior. Haven’t really thought it through. I hope not actually. I hope it doesn’t go to my head and I become something I do not want to become. Bottom line, for me, it is all about achieving something that I have always dreamed of – Finally.

Next blog I’m going to examine this same “What’s in it for me” regarding my choice of employment.