What is your payoff? Why have you made the goals you have? So, I am going to be upfront and honest. I am taking this straight from Living by Design by Dr. Phil. What does success in your life look like for you? I’m going to keep this focused first on my riding success. Why am I doing all this? What is my payoff? The choices are as follows:
Monetary – Psychological – Spiritual – Physical – Achievement – Social
I am getting into the best shape of my life so that I can achieve my equestrian goals. It has nothing to do with money or spirituality. It will aid in my psychological make up. The journey and then finally feeling like I have attained this goal will be probably the biggest boost to my psychological self. Social? Hmmm? Will achieving this goal change my social behavior. Haven’t really thought it through. I hope not actually. I hope it doesn’t go to my head and I become something I do not want to become. Bottom line, for me, it is all about achieving something that I have always dreamed of – Finally.
Next blog I’m going to examine this same “What’s in it for me” regarding my choice of employment.
Started this mind set and journey about the middle of January. Today is April 18th and I am officially down by 20 pounds. It sure does not sound like a whole lot. I do have to say though I feel a world better and my riding is really improving. I do not think I would be able to stay this focused if it were not for my personal trainer and the work out he puts me through. (No, I’m not some celebrity – You too can have a personal trainer – It is affordable)
Today I did read something that struck a nerve and maybe you will get the same motivation from it. I purchased from Habit Nest the Nutrition Side Kick Journal where I log my food and thoughts. It said the following: Your choices are 100 times more important than you think. Every choice you make today is building up a habit for the rest of your life. Our brains learn from what we do repeatedly. Ask yourself: If I made this choice EVERY DAY (for example, the decision to have something sweet after dinner every night) would I be a lot closer to my goals, or a lot further?
Well with the permission of my new favorite Instagram user, I would like to introduce you to @ride_above_hate_ . Kylie also has a website http://www.equestrianstrong.com. Not only does she have a super cute horse, this gal is a great rider. I look forward to following her and reading her posts.
There is one particular post of hers that I just read that honestly hurt my heart. I had read on another page that there has been some cyber bullying happening in the equestrian Instagram community. I personally have not seen it. I feel personally bullied enough just with the lack of plus sized clothes and equipment available let alone someone attacking me on my blog or Instagram. I really thought equestrians were above this. Mind you, I’m not an ostrich with my head in the sand, I’m sure there are gals laughing at me at the shows when I can’t hear them, but to boldly attack someone on Instagram is appalling. I agree completely with Kylie when she says ” Why can’t people just be nice. Guys this sport is hard, it’s dangerous, it’s demanding, it can kill you and we all do it for the horses. We NEED to support each other, we NEED to encourage each other, we need to remember why we started in this industry in the first place. Be kind. Please. Do it for the child inside you who fell in love with horses and never looked back. “
Well said Kylie!!!
There is this thing called Cortisol that gets released in your body when you are under stress. Cortisol blocks the good hormones you need to build and re-build after work outs etc. This is one of the main reasons everyone keeps saying that you need to de-stress your life. Find ways to manage stress. I am sure you have heard it all. I have Cortisol releasing all over me right now at the thought of trying to eliminate stress from life. I am a mortgage loan originator by day and sometimes by night as well. Most every situation has it’s stress. The appraisal comes back low, the inspections comes back with issues. These are two examples of stressors that effect the list agent (sellers rep) the buyers agent, the seller, the buyer and the list just goes on. So what do you do? Someone said today, just pull the weeds. It has to be a mind set. You are not going to allow this to effect you the way it used to.
I’m not saying that you roll over and not take charge during stressful times, just don’t dwell on it past what you have been able to control. This reaches as far as the people you have surrounding you. It really is true that you need to surround yourself with people that have like minded goals. In my situation, I’m mid 50’s and still aspire to event. Low level mind you, but the goal is still there. I’m certainly not going to surround myself with those that tell me this is extremely dangerous and for what? A ribbon?
Well that isn’t the only thing that I still plan on doing. I still plan on snow skiing, scuba diving and some jaunts on the Appalachian Trail. Pulling the weeds on situations around me that negatively impact these goals.
I have mentioned before how I have become obsessed with listening to podcasts to keep me focused on my goals. I was listening this morning to the Impact Theory Podcast by Tom Bilyeu. His guest was Naomi Whittel who I have not heard of. She talked about Autophagy more than once in the interview. I was completely intrigued. What the heck is Autophagy??? By definition it is the body’s way of cleaning out damaged cells, in order to regenerate newer, healthier cells.
I haven’t been a fan of “Fad” diets like Keto, but listening today has spurred (pardon the equestrian pun) to reconsider. Google Ms. Whittel and look at the books she has written on the subject and her thoughts on intermittent fasting and how certain diets promote Autophagy. Probably want to read a little more on the subject and benefits of Autophagy first. I plan to.
You have heard that question, What is your why? Well this is my why.
My goal is to ride this boy USDF next year training level. So every time I make bad decisions on what I eat or drink, I just think about this. Get back on track on all levels. Forgive myself for those bad decisions, stop beating myself up and get right back at it.
I have been reading about the benefits of meditating. Not only to instill emotional maturity for work, but I have read that slowing down and really enjoying a healthy diet and sort of meditating (slowing down) while eating your healthy meal has many benefits. I’m still in learn mode about this, so let me do some more trying and I’ll fill you in what happens.
P.S. Tally qualified for regionals this weekend. 🙂 Georgia here we come.
Cute huh? Not always! Sometimes he can be a pain. He wakes up same time every morning to go outside. He gives me that look same time every evening when it’s time to eat. He is very predictable. He loves his routine. As we know, the most important things to him are eating, sleeping and restroom time. Rarely does he change that routine.
We can learn from this. Why can’t we dumb down our routine and stick to it. Work outs, schedule at work, time with family, what we eat and what we drink. I wonder how beneficial it would be to stay in the same predictable routine? You know like that saying: “Pick up a new habit and stick with it 30 days”. Hmm food for thought.
New tip: Quest Protein Bars. Low carbs – Tasty I’m going to try some more of their products soon.
No this is not me. If I took a poll of equestrians who would rather not have breasts at all, I bet the number would be pretty high. Those of us with the kind of breasts that bounce to our chin during the sitting trot totally will understand this post. It’s all about finding that right bra. On a whim, I stopped in a Soma store a couple of weeks ago. I did not even try it on. Told the counter girl that I ride horses and need something that will keep my shoulders back and my ladies confined. She said, lets at least measure you huh? Ugh, fine, okay!!
Walked out with a new bra. Haven’t rode in it yet, so no testimonials yet. Subject came up at this weekend’s show and was also told about the above brand made by Enell. So if this Soma doesn’t do the trick, I’m down for what looks like a pretty military style, zip those puppies right up. Actually, looks like buckles right up. Kind of wish there was a zipper. After all, there was made mention of the riders who’s clips came apart and the puppies were free throughout her test. Oh my goodness, I would die. Literally!! Concussion!!